The expression goes “April showers bring May flowers,” but as someone who lives in California and has flowers all year long and rarely has rain, that expression doesn’t quite ring true to me. What April is sure to bring, in my opinion, is lots of events. April is the start of wedding season, baby shower season, graduation season and family reunion season. Plus, it’s the lead in to Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. If you’re in a new relationship, the pressure is about to crank up in a major way. And when that new relationship is with a millionaire man, the pressure is even higher. Millionaires typically have very busy schedules and specific tastes, so it can be daunting to know when to bring your new beau to big events in your life. Here are some questions to ask yourself to help you decide when’s right for you.

Are you monogamous?

Monogamy is a big deal to me. Call me old fashioned! Monogamy is a big commitment and shows a certain level of respect and investment in your relationship. If you two are monogamous, then it’s definitely worth considering bringing your millionaire to events. If you’re not, then it’s a no go in my book. And I’m not asking if you’re sleeping with or dating people other than your millionaire. I’m asking if you two have had a talk and decided as a couple to be monogamous. Assuming he isn’t dating other people isn’t enough here.

Has he taken you to events?

Wealthy, successful men have a ton of events. Their company has events, the charities they donate to have events, the boards they sit on have events and their families have events. If your man hasn’t invited you to his events, it’s not because he hasn’t had any events. It’s because he doesn’t think your relationship is at the point where you can go public quite yet. So, this is a sign you shouldn’t invite him to yours. It could also be a sign to sit down and talk about your goals for this relationship. Make sure you’re on the same page and both guiding this relationship in the same direction.

Is this serious?

Relating to the above, ask yourself is this relationship is serious? Could you truly see a future with this fellow? Peel away the glamour of the money and dig deep to feel the emotions you have when you’re together. Do you want to feel those forever? Or at least for a good chunk of time? Don’t bother to bring anyone to a special event who seems like a “fun for now” guy, even if he is a millionaire. Your “fun forever” person could be at this event and bringing an “eh” date could prevent you from meeting him. So, only bring a man you feel very serious about.

Would he make the event better?

Some people are true value adds and some people just aren’t. Is the millionaire you’re with someone who makes things more fun or less stressful for you? If so, that’s a point in the “bring him” column. But, if he’d just be there to stand next to you in pictures or maybe even make the event more high stress for you, that’s a sign not to bring him. And, honestly, a sign to not even date him any more. You’re too awesome to be with someone like that, lady! Go find a guy who’s a value add and not just monetarily!

Happy event season, everyone! Let me know if you’re bringing your new boo with you to your events and how they go! Would love to get the scoop.